I have been round and round with this one, ignore, deal with, ignore, deal with…and now it is face it.
Ben is 3 and the only things he eats at home – (nursery is a different story) are
- Chicken fingers
- Fish Fingers
- Asda alphabites
- Baked beans
- Bread sticks
- French Toast
- Rice Crispies
- Cream Crackers
That is it, well of course given the chance any amount of chocolate, crisps, cake etc.
I did weaning by the book (not baby led, didn’t have the nerves for that), with home made purees, progressing to various dinner, chicken casseroles with veg, spaghetti bolognaise with veg. he started to be fussy at around a year and went down hill from that point to where we are now.
His food refusal goes to ‘treat’ food too, like ice cream and squash, he only drinks water.
He was in nursery full time from 6 months until just over 2, then a 6 month break and he is at a different one 2 days a week now. He doesn’t eat a full range at nursery but will eat fruit pieces, various meals and the little sod darling ate a WHOLE Christmas dinner this year, turkey, potatoes, veg the whole lot. When they told me I just stood staring in complete disbelief.
At the end of last year we did a mini-mind course of healthy eating for children and families, it was great and there was a section of each week where we did food tasting, he did get that he needed to at least lick the food to get a sticker, so he barely let his tongue touch the fruit/veg and he got a sticker. He is not silly, not one bit.
But…he is happy, healthy, growing, bright, alert and starves off scurvy with frutapura pouches. So for the last few months I have chosen to ignore the non eating at home. It is clearly a control issue with him, as in recent weeks he sussed at nursery if he didn’t eat his lunch/tea he got bread and butter and so he was refusing and getting it. But they have twigged and are refusing him this now (with my agreement)
He isn’t a big eater, never has been since a baby with milk and would go without food rather than eat something he doesn’t want. He eats a lot at breakfast of cheerios/rice crispies and I think is then often full so isn’t bothered about lunch.
3 months ago I bought the Gina Ford fussy eaters book and I have to admit I read the first few pages, felt guilt, rubbed the chip on my shoulder and it is gathering dust.
So what should I do? Do I face this and start cooking other food basically destined for the bin? He is a very black and white child, not room for grey if his mind is made up then that is it. He can dig his heels in as far as me, it is exhausting.
But I feel society expects me to tackle this as it is not right he doesn’t eat. But a large part of me thinks that he will grow out of it, but will that only be if I tackle it head on?
Not to play the single parent card but, well with no support at home it is just him against me and no one ever wins.
Anyone been there and got results?