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A breakthrough? – Fussy Eaters Support Club

So after my post last month on should I ignore or do something about the very limit diet that Ben would eat I decided to do nothing.  But then after reading someone else whose child constantly asked for food I twigged that he wasn’t asking for food as he was hungry, it was boredom.

So I decided to take action, when I knew he wasn’t really hungry an hour after a large breakfast of cereal and toast I said “O.K. if you are hungry there are apples or grapes to eat”  He said he didn’t like those, but I just kept repeating back that these were the only options.  This led to a trip to the supermarket to look at fruits.

I ended up buying ingredients to make Bolognese with pasta, and asked Ben to help me at dinner time to do the cooking.  One thing Ben loves is to be involved in anything I am doing, so he pulled up a chair and helped me prepare the vegetables.  I got him to sniff the peppers and onion and help peel things and we talked about the peppers having seeds like the ones we are growing.

As I was stirring the onions I looked and he was peeling a large mushroom and eating the peeled bits *SHOCK*

I asked him to choose which type of pasta to eat (even as a weaned baby he would never eat pasta)  he choose tagliatelle and I set about cooking it.

I put 2 small bowls of cheese on the table, one cheddar and the other mozzarella, he sat down to wait and I looked again and he was eating cheese…EATING CHEESE AT HOME *tries not to faint with excitement*

I was doing my very best to be casual about all this eating, talking about it but not cartwheeling around the kitchen!  Yes I need to encourage but not let him realise the fuss it is causing.

The pasta was ready so I put some on his plate and some Bolognese next to it and sat down with mine too.  And he ate the pasta, and asked for more and I tried not to cry.

So of course being the laid back person I am I went to Asda the next day and bought 4 different types of pasta! He has eaten is again a few times, always on its own, no sauce.  The cheese eating has yet to be repeated but I live in hope.

But it isn’t all good news on the eating, he went a whole day at nursery yesterday without eating anything apart from his breakfast.  They were worried about him, he just refused it all. I collected him at 5 p.m. and chatted to his key worker and told then to try not to worry and that I would talk to him again later and reinforce the need to eat at nursery.  I fed him later at home on beans and bread sticks, nothing exciting but just food to fill him up at least.  And he slept for 13 hours last night. Odd little boy.

So the theory of they won’t starve themselves, they will eat what they are given…Ben might not have got that memo

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I have a confession – Fussy Eaters Support Club

I have been round and round with this one, ignore, deal with, ignore, deal with…and now it is face it.

Ben is 3 and the only things he eats at home – (nursery is a different story) are

  • Chicken fingers
  • Fish Fingers
  • Asda alphabites
  • Baked beans
  • Bread sticks
  • French Toast
  • Cheerios
  • Rice Crispies
  • Toast
  • Frutapura
  • Yoghurt
  • Cream Crackers

That is it, well of course given the chance any amount of chocolate, crisps, cake etc.

I did weaning by the book (not baby led, didn’t have the nerves for that), with home made purees, progressing to various dinner, chicken casseroles with veg, spaghetti bolognaise with veg. he started to be fussy at around a year and went down hill from that point to where we are now.

His food refusal goes to ‘treat’ food too, like ice cream and squash, he only drinks water.

He was in nursery full time from 6 months until just over 2, then a 6 month break and he is at a different one 2 days a week now.  He doesn’t eat a full range at nursery but will eat fruit pieces, various meals and the little sod darling ate a WHOLE Christmas dinner this year, turkey, potatoes, veg the whole lot.  When they told me I just stood staring in complete disbelief.

At the end of last year we did a mini-mind course of healthy eating for children and families, it was great and there was a section of each week where we did food tasting, he did get that he needed to at least lick the food to get a sticker, so he barely let his tongue touch the fruit/veg and he got a sticker.  He is not silly, not one bit.

But…he is happy, healthy, growing, bright, alert and starves off scurvy with frutapura pouches.  So for the last few months I have chosen to ignore the non eating at home.  It is clearly a control issue with him, as in recent weeks he sussed at nursery if he didn’t eat his lunch/tea he got bread and butter and so he was refusing and getting it.  But they have twigged and are refusing him this now (with my agreement)

He isn’t a big eater, never has been since a baby with milk and would go without food rather than eat something he doesn’t want.  He eats a lot at breakfast of cheerios/rice crispies and I think is then often full so isn’t bothered about lunch.

3 months ago I bought the Gina Ford fussy eaters book and I have to admit I read the first few pages, felt guilt, rubbed the chip on my shoulder and it is gathering dust.

So what should I do?  Do I face this and start cooking other food basically destined for the bin? He is a very black and white child, not room for grey if his mind is made up then that is it.  He can dig his heels in as far as me, it is exhausting.

But I feel society expects me to tackle this as it is not right he doesn’t eat.  But a large part of me thinks that he will grow out of it, but will that only be if I tackle it head on?

Not to play the single parent card but, well with no support at home it is just him against me and no one ever wins.

Anyone been there and got results?

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